This is Alexandria (her alias is authentically.alexandria), a beautiful curvaceous lady whom I first approached on TikTok to be featured on Curvy Shrine. I've asked her to write a little bit about herself which you can read below.
When I was kid, I was picked on and bullied for being fat. I was called names and cussed at and even told I needed to get my mom to buy me a bra before I ever got my first training bra. I took things like that to heart and it made me hate how I looked. I would scan a room full of people and shamefully claim myself as the fattest person in the room.
As I got older I fell in love with the way I looked and who I was as a person. No matter what my weight is, I always remember my worth and that I am beautiful inside and out. I think about the lack of love those bullies had for themselves and others around them to have to say hateful things to me. For me simply existing in this world we all share.
Even though my body will disintegrate when I’m gone, it has still carried and shaped my soul in some ways. Ultimately, the experiences you have in this lifetime shape the person you become and my weight definitely was a big part of that. Over time, I gained a confidence that I yearned for when I was young. I started to wear the clothes I wanted, instead of covering up myself to please society. I started to try new things with my hair and make up, because I no longer wanted to hide behind my fat, and be that girl Shamefully scanning the room to see if I was the least accepted human there. I stopped caring if people thought I was ugly or any other assumptions they had about me because I know they aren’t true.
I started living for me, doing what I wanted, and I stopped caring so much about what others thought about my existence. I hope other women can find it in them to stop treating their life like a dictatorship that is dictated by the society we live in. Your weight is not a metal anvil that should hold you down or hold you back from anything you want to do.
Although people will experience hate or bullying or rejection for being fat, and it may still hurt sometimes on a bad day. I promise it hurts a lot less when you truly find love for yourself. Once you love yourself for who you are, you’re able to share that with others and spread love to others which is an amazing feeling.
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